There’s been a lot of social media coverage lately with single people discussing each other’s “body count”. It often comes in the form of a man-on-the-street interview, with the very first question being “what’s your body count?”  Of course, this is a euphemism for how many people someone has had sexual intercourse with. Such a topic used to be off-limits, especially in mixed company. Now it’s out in the open. Concern for this seems to illustrate an underlying truth that we are no longer in the feverish grip of the sexual revolution, but are beginning to question its basic presuppositions and erroneous premises. In fact, surprisingly, this topic now seems to be at the forefront of the cultural dialogue between singles in the dating market. At least on social media. Why might this be?

First, the bottom line. Generally speaking, beneath all the layers of cultural conditioning:

A woman wants to know a man’s sexual past in order to judge his future behavior. A man wants to know a woman’s sexual past in order to judge her present condition.

This is not a double-standard of morality. Guilt of sin is the same for both sexes (Mt 5:28; 19:8-9). It is an innate understanding of consequences, and how experience affects the sexes differently at their most basic levels.

This common-sense point is blasphemy to the religion of liberal progressivism. The latter a faith-based ideology that depends on denial to continue as a driving force in society. Nevertheless, just because errors in modern philosophy have darkened our distinctions between guilt and affect, and just because the doctrine of radical feminism with its obstinate denial of human nature has conditioned the sensibilities of both sexes for over a half century – both of these facts do not at all change human nature.

The healthy sexual dynamic is that both partners become total and unique gifts to one another, as indicated in Ephesians 5:21. This is fundamental to male-female spousal love. Nonetheless, verses 22-33 go on to illustrate the difference in healthy sexual interplay between the masculine and feminine principals. Woman-to-man love comes chiefly in the form of respect, whereas man-to-woman love is chiefly to cherish. Before marriage, she consciously or subconsciously looks for a man she can respect and depend on as a husband and father. He, on the other hand, wants a woman that he can cherish ‘as his own body’ (5:28, 33) as a wife, and mother of his children. In a sense, as the long tradition of taking the man’s name signifies, she becomes grafted onto him as a body to a head. If she has already been one-flesh with another man or other men, that disfigures the unique signification of this head-body dynamic, a union that is naturally cherished.

We all know this in the depths of our souls, even if subconsciously. Yet, perhaps our fornication culture that was inaugurated and supported by ‘the pill’ has kept people from searching the depths of their souls – due to fear of pain. So, instead of seeking the divine physician who wants to forgive souls and heal wounds, we continue the same grave mistakes and compound the woundedness.

After decades of lies foisted on Western culture from the depths of Hell – taught as doctrine by the media and academia – we are finally beginning to recognize sexual difference again. This is a good thing. Recognition and acknowledgement is the beginning of the healing process. It must never again be used to dominate or subjugate, but rather to celebrate the immense beauty of sexual complementarity and the moral imperative to love. Let us strive to be men who can be genuinely respected and women who can be truly cherished.